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Are you a blurter or a brooder? ...and how this affects your love life

Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions. This questionnaire was designed to measure your blirtatiousness. Blirtatiousness is a construct that refers to how quickly and effusively people respond to others. People who score low on this measure tend to "bottle things up inside", whereas, people who score high on this measure tend to blurt out their thoughts as soon as they come to mind.

  Your response type:


Your answers indicate that you are moderate in blirtatiousness. Because you're neither too expressive nor reticent in the way you express yourself to others, people aren't drawn as much to how you are talking as much as they are to what you are saying. This is good considering that you are able to express your opinions and be assertive, but you don't have the problem of offending others by cutting off their words or appearing to put your needs in front of theirs. Although you are viewed as quite sociable, you also need moments to collect your thoughts at which times others view you as thoughtful.

  Partner response type:


Your responses indicate that you see your partner as low in blirtatiousness. Low scorers don't usually say the first thing that comes to mind; rather, they tend to hesitate and deliberate before responding to others. Often people low in blirtatiousness are shy and introverted and tend to dwell on thoughts internally instead of discussing them with others. Because low-blirters sometimes have difficulty saying how they feel, they may sometimes fail to get their needs met in relationships.

  Your self-criticalness:


You scored in the moderate range on the criticalness scale. This means that you tend to rate yourself as neither high nor low on the following dimensions: critical, judgmental, moody, controlling, dominant, patient, warmth, and tolerance.

  Partner criticalness:


You scored in the moderate range on the partner criticalness scale. This means that you tend to perceive your partner as neither high nor low on the following dimensions: critical, judgmental, moody, controlling, dominant, patient, warmth, and tolerance.

Much of our research has examined this communication style and how it influences romantic relationships. Recent findings indicate that people are happiest in relationships when their blirt levels match. That is, whether it's 2 low blirters, 2 moderate blirters, or 2 high blirters, similarity in how intimate partners communicate with one another leads to heightened satisfaction. On the other hand, mismatches in blirtatiousness are associated with relatively low relationship satisfaction.

In addition, communication seems to unfold well if the man outscores the woman on the blirt by any amount. On the other hand, when the woman outscores the man on the blirt by any significant amount AND the woman scores in the "high" range on criticalness, then the members of the couple may experience challenges in communication that other couples do not. Of course, this finding is based on averages and there are always exceptions to such generalizations. Your relationship could be one such exception.

  Relationship feedback:

Communication OK

While the female partner is higher in blirtatiousness than the man, your answers indicate that the low criticalness allows for decent communciation in your relationship.

The questionnaires you have just completed are designed to extend these previous findings by examining why people with these communication styles experience difficulty. For example, we are wondering if men who are low blirters feel resentment toward blirtatious, critical women because such men feel that such women do not conform to the stereotypically feminine woman. Additionally, we hope to gain insight into how blirtatiousness interacts with other variables in determining relationship satisfaction. Your participation will help us to better understand these questions.

If you enjoyed taking this test, and would like to learn more about your personality, look at our homepage for other personality tests on this site.

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